Anxiety and SPD

This past school year started off with Kyra having intense headaches and they determined the cause to be anxiety.  I couldn’t wrap my head around it since she was only 7.  I knew she hated school and still does but I couldn’t understand in causing headaches to the point where I had to keep her home for a few days just to break the cycle.  I really couldn’t understand anxiety in her age, not when she has so much to be carefree about and I try to lead by example not worrying, that is until I read this article.  It really made it easy for me to understand why she might be experiencing anxiety at such an age when life is suppose to be carefree and fun.


Emotions and SPD

There is no sense for emotions yet SPD and emotions do go hand in hand.  It comes down to self regulating and from what I can tell from Kyra the delay in input and output processing.  I found two really good and really short articles to help explain how the SPD can effect emotions. Well one for now.  I accidently closed out of one when I went to copy and paste the link.  Will attach when I find it again.

Expanding view of SPD

As many know the medical community says that SPD is not really a disorder.  Yes, I know, bs.  However, my question is if they say it’s not, why are more and more companies creating sensory friendly areas? Many have heard of sensory friendly days at Chuck E. Cheese’s, but now the NBA, AMC and even some airports.  This is huge. 1 This just opens up so many possibility for parents 2. These are some big names.  Hello, if the NBA can acknowledge the fact that there is a need for sensory areas in their arenas why can’t the medical community say it’s a disorder?

SPD and the holidays

Yes it is early, but I found it now so posting now.  Plus, always better early not late.

Those who know us, know that every year between Thanksgiving and New Year’s is the worst for Kyra.  I am holiday person.  I decorate every holiday and every season.  Halloween is currently a really large tub, Easter two really large tubs and regular size one, Christmas um…let’s say it’s better not to know.  In our house, Christmas decorating starts Black Friday and everything comes down New Year’s.  So yes it is safe to say I am some of the problem.  In my defense, I don’t put everything out either, if there is no room then it doesn’t come out and that goes for on the tree as well.

Kyra loves the singing animals/characters I have.  It is the highlight of her decorating when she gets the animals out, lines them up and starts pushing the buttons to make them all go off at once.  Daddy hates it, but Phoebe and I are used to it.  She loves to decorate the tree and loves seeing the lights.  She doesn’t avoid any of it.

What does happen is her behavior gets worse during that time though.  Homework, forget it.  The whole month of December, you would have better luck seeing pigs fly than getting her to do homework.  Lots of yelling, hitting, pushing, punching, pinching, etc.  One year after the Christmas Eve service Dad was locked in the van with her while I quickly removed Phoebe because of how violent she was getting.  Dad stayed to make sure that Kyra stayed in the van instead of following us out.  All of this was over the fact that she did not want to go home and go to bed. So yes the holiday struggle is real.  Add her Christmas curse (tends to do something horrible every year) and it makes me want to remove the months from the year at times.

A day in the Life of SPD

Although some would have to be changed for Kyra, I love how this breaks the day down and also shares the sensation issue.  It may be the only way to see the day through the child’s eyes and allow a better understanding of the disorder.  As for a day in the life of Kyra, it’s summer so less structure than needed for something like this.  I know less structure is bad, but give me a break, currently having 3-4 bad days a week with my chemo treatments. We shall see how the school year lends itself to this here before too long.

Sensory Diets

I recently joined several SPD parent support groups online and have noticed the trend of sleep problems.  That’s not uncommon in the world of SPD.  What was surprising is how few have either heard about sensory diets or thought about using them for bed.  When we were introduced to sensory diets, that what we used it for.  We started with dinner and ended with bed.  We would add the things that had to be done like bath and brushing teeth, but she got to pick her calming down activities for the night.  They would often include lava lamp, reading a story, yoga, rolling pin (same way as brush therapy), therapy brush (brush therapy),  hot dog/taco (we call it taco), and weighted blanket.  It’s a long process, but she is ready for bed when bedtime comes. Now we can just do parts of it most of the time.  I would share a picture of her sensory diet but we haven’t used it since we moved to GA.  I would have to find it first.

DIY Sensory Chairs

Was debating on how I was going to share this, simple Facebook or blog.  I decided to go with the blog so that 1.  it can be achieved and found later (even if you save on Facebook there is no search) 2. I can add to it if I find other sites.

I love some of these options.  I know that Kyra cannot sit still.  This past school year, second grade, she had an amazing teacher who either let her stand and work or she would sit and be able to play with an exercise band.

SPD subtypes

Who knew there where subtypes? I didn’t.  Then again before SPD I had no clue there are more than 5 senses.  From my understanding, which is very limited mind you, I would have to say Kyra falls under Sensory Craving. Not sure how useful the information really is but it is still an interesting piece of information and who knows, maybe one day the subtypes will be useful information.

Why I allow meltdowns

Meltdowns and tantrums are different.  I look at tantrums as a way to get something you want and a meltdown as a reaction to something that is happening to you.  By allowing Kyra to have meltdowns, she is learning that it ok to feel and we as parents can then guide her and show her that the feelings are not bad but the way she reacts on those feelings that can be good or bad. If I was to go to a waiting room and the TV was too loud, it would not be my fault for thinking that the volume was too loud.  It would just be how I interpreted the volume.  However, if I started yelling and screaming and cussing, then I would be in the wrong.  Now to a child with sensory, this noise would be painful and pain hurts.  So by knowing the difference, the pain can be addressed and then how to handle the situation can be address.  My favorite part of the article is at the end and says, “But parent behavior is adjustable, so it’s the most powerful tool we have for helping young children.”

Oh, summer

This summer has been fun.  I am handing Kyra over to family for the most part this summer.  Knowing that she has to be active and has to move and hates change, I can’t keep her home this summer as I am going through chemo.  Not alone.  I have wonderful friends, don’t get me wrong, but trying to balance friend’s work schedule and how much of Kyra they know and their kid’s can handle is just too much for everyone.  Those who know me know that I feel guilt very easily, and sending my children away for most of the summer is one of those things that I am dreading, but I know I can’t be the mom that they need right now, especially Kyra.

The knowing the child is so important and it is also important to plan just in case.  I am always the one that gets picked on for that but it comes in handy.  I got both the girls water shoes for our trip to the beach, but surprisingly they were fine without them.  I go visit a family member miles away in hospice one year and needed my funeral clothes not for that person but someone else.  I know sometimes Kyra can do fireworks and other times she cannot, so we take ear muffs every time just in case.  We know that Chuck E Cheese’s is a sensory overload and a nightmare if not addressed correctly.  Therefore, we only go every now and then as a treat, set a heads’ up timer to let her know when she has 10 minutes left, then a 10 minute alarm, she knows what we expect of her before she even goes in and so on.  We go in with a plan.  Just like we address bedtime with a plan, a sensory diet plan that still includes story time, cuddles, hugs and kisses, night light (lava lamp or glitter lamp if we can find the replacement bulbs), stretches and other calming activities.  We know that she still needs help bringing herself down and bedtime.

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